A main reason why losing weight and keeping it off can be so difficult is because you may have an “overweight identity” that leads you to inadvertently sabotage your weight loss efforts. Your “identity” may be thought of as the total way you’ve defined “who you are”: what you do, how you think and believe, and why. Generally, people end up overweight is because their identity somehow came to include being an overweight person, along with the ways of thinking and acting that preserve and perpetuate it.
Creating a "Weight Loss Identity"
How does one end up with an “overweight identity”? Where does it come from? Usually, through early-life conditioning. Perhaps parents role-modeled being overweight. Perhaps they called you names and put you down for your looks. Perhaps you were taught that you weren't good enough or worthy enough to be thin. In any event, you somehow learned that being overweight is “who you are”, leading you to perpetuate it—like it or not. .
The good news is that it’s never too late to modify and recreate your id entity into a healthy “low weight” you. When you do, you’ll find that thinking and acting in the ways thinner people do becomes much easier and more natural. Self-sabotage decreases and even disappears.
3 tips for creating a new lower weight identity:
1) First, write out your old negative beliefs and actions you’ve used to stay overweight, and then think of where they originated. From your parents? Peers? The media? Now, challenge these old habits by writing out detailed evidence against each tendency being valid or useful. Finally, write healthier ways to think and act in contrast to these old self-defeating tendencies. You may need to do some research and learn more what statistics say makes for healthy, thinner people and how they conduct themselves.
2) Second, brainstorm and write out your new “weight loss identity”: how you’ll choose to think and act now in relation to eating, exercise, and your lower weight lifestyle in general. Create a composite sketch of the new, healthier you. Continue to research, brainstorm, and refine your written “weight loss identity”.
3) Third, regularly practice visualizing the new you in sharp detail. Make the new you tangible, identifiable, and clear.
*With practice, continuing to brainstorm, refine, and visualize your new healthier, lower-weight identity will help you to actually possess such an identity and make your weight loss journey a success.
Diet Supplements Don’t Work!
Diet supplements don't work. Here's why: they either don't work at all and/or have horrible side effects that are harmful to your health. The few supplements that may temporarily promote some weight loss do so by trying to:
1) Artificially suppress your appetite--leading to malnutrition and your appetite returning with a vengeange when you stop taking the supplement
2) Try to bind and pass excess food out of your body--which strips your body of vital nutrients and promotes malnutrition
3) Try to forcibly accelerate the body's metabolism to burn calories faster--which creates an unhealthy strain on the heart and even heart attacks
4) Trying to get you to buy entire meal plans of lower calorie foods--leading to high expense and lost pounds returning when a person eventually chooses their own foods again
In short, diet supplements are expensive, ineffective, and unhealthy. The best solution? Create your own diet and exercise program based on moderate exercise that you'll actually maintain longterm + create your own lower-calorie diet with foods that you'll actually eat and stick with. Weight loss--that is, long-term, healthy weight loss--comes from a long-term healthy weight lifestyle, rather than through expensive, unhealthy diet supplements and/or foods that cannot be maintained.
There is no easy, quick fix with weight loss. This is a marathon, not a sprint.